Why is emotional intelligence such a hot topic?
We know it enables you to understand and recognize your own emotional reactions, and therefore others. Clearly that is a plus in social situations, but how exactly does this benefit your life?
Well to get some perspective, let’s look at how life can be without emotional intelligence.
Imagine living, working or doing business with people like this:
• Drama addicts who create an international incident out of minor issues that could easily be solved; who focus with single minded determination on problems, and when they can’t find them—create them.
• Blame bingers who automatically blame everyone else, when things don’t work out according to their expectations, and never, ever take responsibility for their part in anything—thereby condemning themselves to keep repeating history and falling into the same old traps – and taking you with them.
• The rigid and righteous, who are always right about everything. It’s their way or the highway. They’re completely incapable of seeing things from anyone else’s perspective or evaluating new ideas.
• Approval whores who have no boundaries, and will do anything (including discarding you as collateral damage) to please and appease those they believe can further their interests.
• Indecisive ditherers.
• Promise-you-the-world but don’t deliver con-men (and women).
• People with the communication skills of a cucumber.
• Those who are so hard to motivate you’re tempted to wire them up to an IED (improvised explosive device).
• Kings and Queens of criticism – with no constructive intent.
• Eeyores who automatically expect worst case scenarios, and can come up with a hundred reasons why whatever you suggested won’t work.
• Assorted gossips, poor-me parasites, and manipulative monsters.
OMG, maybe you do…..
Maybe that person is you!
So, how does increasing emotional intelligence have a positive impact on your life?
1. Health – The ability to take responsibility for your mental, physical and emotional fitness, and maintain a positive mindset enables you to positively influence people and situations – even when under pressure.
2. Relationships – When you understand and manage your emotions, you communicate and relate well, even when the going gets tough. You are able to step into someone else’s shoes and see things from their perspective – even if you don’t necessarily agree. This is what makes or breaks a partnership or a team.
3. Conflict Resolution – When you can relate to people’s feelings and empathize with their perspective, it’s much easier to resolve conflicts or avoid them before they start. Negotiation skills are good because of your ability to understand what drives others.
4. Success – High emotional intelligence means you don’t take stressful episodes personally. Although you have your fair share of challenges you know how to manage them. You use failure as fuel. You don’t base your identity on it—and you know when to hold on and when to let go.
5. Impulse control – You know the value of delaying gratification and evaluating the consequences of your actions. You don’t allow your inner toddler to hijack you, because you can’t have or do what you want right this minute.
6. Self Awareness – You are better equipped to handle problems productively when you’re self aware. You are intimately acquainted with your own strengths and weaknesses, which grants you the ability to empathize with others.
7. Motivation – Emotionally intelligent people are self-motivated, because they’re not solely dependent on external influences to provide their motivation.
8. Communication – When you are in control of your emotional reactions, you can clearly convey what you mean to say, and naturally inspire and appreciate others.
9. Conflict Resolution – In the workplace or at home, emotional intelligence enables you to assess and deal with conflict. You’re not easily intimidated, can see both sides, and can therefore negotiate settlements and implement conflict prevention strategies.
10. Stress mastery – Emotional intelligence grants you emotional stability and well developed problem solving skills. When faced with a crisis or a challenge, you instinctively step back, and evaluate the options objectively. You know where you can influence change—and where you can’t, so you don’t waste energy fighting battles you can’t win.
11. Opportunity spotting – you can see past challenges and adversity, and are not afraid to take calculated risks. You can therefore use adversity to grow stronger and smarter.
12. Resilience – Emotional intelligence means you are flexible; you bend instead of break. It enables you to learn from adversity, adapt and see the bigger picture.
13. Confidence – You trust your ability to master new experiences. Confidence is a byproduct of trusting yourself. When you’re confident, showing appreciation is easy and natural, and this motivates your team.
14. Time management – Emotional intelligence makes prioritizing and boundary setting easier. Therefore you’re able to handle your time far more efficiently.
15. Responsibility – Emotional intelligence goes hand in hand with taking personal responsibility for outcomes. This grants you the power to be a game changer, instead of impotently assigning blame.
Having the ability to understand what makes you do what you do, builds strong bonds with others.
This is one reason those with higher emotional intelligence make more effective leaders. We feel safe with them because we sense they’re in control. They engender trust and respect. Their team members feel that what they bring to the table is valued and appreciated.
And these are only a few of the multitude of reasons emotional intelligence is a must-have asset!
Can you afford not to transform the quality of your life by increasing your EQ?